It's funny how if you draw your circles out large enough in genealogy research, you will eventually find a pathway, by which you and your spouse are related to each other. It's inevitable. The only reason you may not yet have found one yourself, is because you don't have 250,000 people in your database as I do.
At any rate, the relationship I've found, is not a blood relationship, nor one strictly "by marriage", but one of what I called Proximity. The use of Proximity, allows linking through in-laws, as well as through parents and children, and for any number of steps. So the sister of a man whose wife is sister to your husband, but not otherwise related to you in any other known way, would, through Proximity, still be only four steps away from you. Those steps being "Sibling - Spouse - Sibling - Spouse - You" with you standing in position zero, each connection represents just a single step.
Now using this method here is how I am related to my partner, where I've merely marked "Living" for those who may have privacy rights (the dead have no privacy rights).
| Step # ||Relationship|
of this person
to the last person
| 0 ||Myself|
|2||Mother||Mary Opal Fawcett, born 28 Apr 1918 Pomeroy, Garfield County, Washington; died 17 Mar 1984 Providence Hospital, Everett, Snohomish County, resident of Clearview,Snohomish County,Washington|
|3||Mother|| Alta May Wright, born 7 Dec 1895 Wheeler, Washington County, Arkansas; married Thomas Douglas Fawcett; she died 22 Aug 1977 Monroe, Snohomish County, Washington|
|4||Mother|| Julia Augusta "Julie" Ivey, born 19 Jan 1875 Pettigrew, Madison County, Arkansas; married Harvey Edgar "Richard" "Dick" Wright; she died 28 May 1939 Ostrander, West Kelso, Cowlitz County, Washington|
|5||Mother|| Mary Frances Snodgrass, born 11 Dec 1839 Mulberry, Franklin County, Arkansas; married William Riley Ivey; she died 29 Dec 1876 Washington County, Arkansas|
|6||Brother|| Robert Bean Snodgrass, born 29 Jan 1830 Mulberry, Crawford County, Arkansas; married first to Mary A McGehee; he died 12 Oct 1900 Eugene, Lane County, Oregon|
|7||Son|| Albert "Robert" Snodgrass, born 19 Jan 1853 Mulberry, Franklin County, Arkansas; married Lucinda Peters; he died 22 Dec 1898 Franklin County, Arkansas|
|8||Spouse|| Lucinda Peters born Mar 1860 Narrows PO, Mountain Township, Crawford County, Arkansas; she married Albert Snodgrass; she was living in 1901|
|9||Father|| Ellis Peters born Jan 1828 Jackson County, Alabama; he married Elvira Jane "Eliza" Sinclair; he died between 1900 and 1910|
|10||Brother|| Edmund Peters born 1833 Jackson County, Alabama; he married Elizabeth Wright; he was living in 1864|
|11||Spouse|| Elizabeth Wright born May 1835 Jackson County, Alabama; she married Edmund Peters; she was living in 1880|
|12||Mother|| Mary Catherine "Polly" Shepherd born 8 Jan 1810 Cherokee Lands, Mississippi Territory (later Jackson County, Alabama); she married Isham Wright; she died in 1891|
|13||Brother|| James "Jim" Shepherd born abt 1805 Lee County, Virginia; he married Hannah Peters; he was living in 1851 but died probably near the Big Blue, Kansas while enroute to California|
|14||Daughter|| Catherine Shepherd born 31 Aug 1841 Bidville, Crawford County, Arkansas; married John W Blanton; she died 28 Aug 1935 Salem General Hospital, (but resident of Brooks), Salem, Marion County, Oregon|
|15||Son|| John P Blanton born 1862 Sublimity or Salem, Marion County, Oregon; married Mary Charlotte Lindgren; he died 11 May 1899 Linn County, Oregon|
|16||Son|| Lester Allen Blanton alias McCracken born 2 Aug 1894 Salem, Marion County, Oregon; he married Viola Faye Ritchie; he died 4 Dec 1979 Aberdeen, Grays Harbor County, Washington|
|17|| Daughter|| Ethelyn Marie "Mary" McCracken born 14 Nov 1922 Montesano, Grays Harbor County, Washington; she married first living male; she died 1995/1996 a resident of San Francisco, San Francisco County, California|
So in nineteen steps